While driving today I heard a newscast about the death of Paul Newman they had a short clip from one of his movies “Nobody’s Fool”. His character was a grandfather speaking to his grandson about bravery. I haven’t seen the movie and am not sure of the context of the clip, however in the movie Paul Newman’s character was trying to teach his grandson about how to stand up to bullies and the advice was perfect.
Learn to be brave a little at a time. He taught his grandson to be brave for just 1 minute, 1 minute goes by quickly and a puts less pressure on you. The next time you need to be brave you do it for 2 minutes, and then slowly you become braver during many parts of your life. What a great way to overcome fear, be brave for short controlled times.
I teach life sized tasks to my clients and workshop attendees and this is very similar. Instead of tackling fears or difficult moments with all the bravery you can muster you tackle fears in small life size moments. You aren’t just brave, you learn to be brave. There’s a huge difference between the two. When you’re just brave you are only brave in that moment, it does not become a piece of who you are it’s just a moment in time. When you learn to be brave you are adding bravery to your toolbox of life.
That’s a very important distinction. When you’re working on growth you want to have authentic experiences and not forced moments. Forced moments are easily forgotten, authentic experiences you draw upon time and time again.
Learning to be brave in life sized moments can apply to any attribute you’re trying to make part of your daily life. Learn to be patient. Learn to be more truthful. Learn to be more out spoken. All of these can be done in the same manner, in life sized authentic moments, each which add to who you are and help you become the person you want to be.
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