Your vision for 2009
January is an excellent time to spend time thinking about what is next for you. It’s cold outside, start a fire or get yourself a warm cup of tea, stay in your pajamas and curl up with your journal or notebook and write.
Write your story for 2009. Write as if it was January 1, 2010 and you are reminiscing about your wonderful year. Write about all that went well and how you had the perfect year. Have fun with it and really think about your year in detail. Be specific; include all aspects of your life.
Think about all of what 2009 held for you.
After, look back on your writing and make a list. This is your master list, the list of 2009. List everything, list it all, and list more after that and then…just a little bit more. List as if you had 24 hours a day, seven days a week, and 52 weeks of the year to do what you wanted.
Push yourself and think about all you could accomplish.
This is your inspiration; use it every time you need something to do. Use it to inspire yourself. Use it so that you don’t spend your year sitting around watching TV or surfing on the net.
Use it to help you think big and dream bigger!
If you include house related tasks make them about organizing or making your life easier. If you include your family it should be about spending time together, having fun, and improving communication.
Include yourself care, time for healthcare, time for growth and time for reflection.
Once you have your dream list, pick a few items off of it for each month of the year. These are task you commit to, that you will complete.
When you think about your list, your vision based on months and seasons you can be more realistic about what and when you can accomplish your goals. Everyone has a more productive season or series of months. Looking as what you want to accomplished based upon your natural rhythms lets you be more successful. Use your seasonal patterns for success!
January is a time for reflection and planning. Take your January to look back at all that was good in 2008 and all that will be fabulous in 2009.
2009 is now just raw space, wide open possibilities. Fill it with all of what is important and meaningful to you.
Happy New Year!
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Monday, January 5, 2009
Positivity and happiness starts with one person.
It is a new year! I hope to see a lot of changes this year; the most important is a global shift from negativity to positivity.
Positivity and happiness starts with one person.
Be that one person. As Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in this world.”
Make a commitment in 2009 to be positive, to see yourself and your life from a strengths based perspective and move forward each day with determination and openness.
Start your day with positive thoughts; use your golden hour wisely. The first 60 minutes in the morning can set the tone for your whole day so take advantage of that. Avoid radio and TV, spend time reflecting, writing, listening to your favorite music or meditating. Look over your list for the day and think about how you want to spend your time. Have a nutritious breakfast that will give you the energy you need. When you get in your car turn on your favorite songs and sign along, listen to a book on audio.
At the end of your day write your gratitude’s in your journal.
Doing your gratitude journal as the last thing you do before you sleep instills positivity into your subconscious. Listing your gratitude’s daily will help you to remain positive and increase your levels of happiness. Write 3-5 things that made you grateful during your day. This journal can help in moments of difficulty because you can go back to it and remember all that is good and you can be thankful for in your life.
Approach each moment of your day with your personal strengths in mind, when a challenge or difficulty arises, change your perspective.
Stop yourself from reacting. Take a moment and think about how you can approach the challenge with a different paradigm. Use your strengths; always think about the positive you can bring to the challenge.
Learning your personal strengths, your signature strengths can change how you approach each moment of your life. Make it a point to start this year concentrating on what makes you the strongest. List your top five strengths and make them part of every day. If you have a problem listing your strengths ask your loved ones and they can help you.
If you still struggle email me and we can work together to list your top five.
Learn your strengths, post them everywhere, be able to recite them in the same way you can your name and birth date, Make them as much a part of who you are as your most important beliefs.
Lead with your strengths and work towards positive change!
Positivity and happiness starts with one person.
Be that one person. As Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in this world.”
Make a commitment in 2009 to be positive, to see yourself and your life from a strengths based perspective and move forward each day with determination and openness.
Start your day with positive thoughts; use your golden hour wisely. The first 60 minutes in the morning can set the tone for your whole day so take advantage of that. Avoid radio and TV, spend time reflecting, writing, listening to your favorite music or meditating. Look over your list for the day and think about how you want to spend your time. Have a nutritious breakfast that will give you the energy you need. When you get in your car turn on your favorite songs and sign along, listen to a book on audio.
At the end of your day write your gratitude’s in your journal.
Doing your gratitude journal as the last thing you do before you sleep instills positivity into your subconscious. Listing your gratitude’s daily will help you to remain positive and increase your levels of happiness. Write 3-5 things that made you grateful during your day. This journal can help in moments of difficulty because you can go back to it and remember all that is good and you can be thankful for in your life.
Approach each moment of your day with your personal strengths in mind, when a challenge or difficulty arises, change your perspective.
Stop yourself from reacting. Take a moment and think about how you can approach the challenge with a different paradigm. Use your strengths; always think about the positive you can bring to the challenge.
Learning your personal strengths, your signature strengths can change how you approach each moment of your life. Make it a point to start this year concentrating on what makes you the strongest. List your top five strengths and make them part of every day. If you have a problem listing your strengths ask your loved ones and they can help you.
If you still struggle email me and we can work together to list your top five.
Learn your strengths, post them everywhere, be able to recite them in the same way you can your name and birth date, Make them as much a part of who you are as your most important beliefs.
Lead with your strengths and work towards positive change!
Monday, November 10, 2008
Time for rest.
I’m sitting here in this glorious park watching beautiful blue herons glide by. And the Lotus are still blooming and the trees are aflame with the glorious reds, oranges and yellows, ah, fall color. The sun breaks through the weeping willow leaves and occasionally warms my face. I’m here to relax, to contemplate, to read, to write and to spent time in one of my favorite places -under trees-by water-in the wilderness.
A few weeks ago I was on a very small lake and it was a windy day. I wanted to remind all of you how energizing aspects of nature can be because I heard a sound we don’t here often and it is sound that calms and inspires me so completely.
The sound of trees. There’s nothing quite like being there in the middle of the forest when the wind travels through the trees. The quiet nature of the wild allows you to both hear and feel this low rumble. It is so clearly different from the rustle of the few trees in your yard. It surrounds you; it is comforting and also ominous. It reminds you of how big the world is and how much more you have to experience. Its primal nature makes me close my eyes point my face to the sun and smile.
Being at here today and out on the lake a few weeks ago makes me wonder why I don’t make this part of my life on a more regular basis. When I am here I realize how much I’ve missed it. The autumn draws me outside, I remember and I try to make this special time a more important part of my life and who I am. I invite you to do the same.
Find the place that inspires you. Find your retreat end point your face to the sun and smile. Taking time outside amongst the trees and the water can soothe you like nothing else. Find the time and rejuvenate your life.
A few weeks ago I was on a very small lake and it was a windy day. I wanted to remind all of you how energizing aspects of nature can be because I heard a sound we don’t here often and it is sound that calms and inspires me so completely.
The sound of trees. There’s nothing quite like being there in the middle of the forest when the wind travels through the trees. The quiet nature of the wild allows you to both hear and feel this low rumble. It is so clearly different from the rustle of the few trees in your yard. It surrounds you; it is comforting and also ominous. It reminds you of how big the world is and how much more you have to experience. Its primal nature makes me close my eyes point my face to the sun and smile.
Being at here today and out on the lake a few weeks ago makes me wonder why I don’t make this part of my life on a more regular basis. When I am here I realize how much I’ve missed it. The autumn draws me outside, I remember and I try to make this special time a more important part of my life and who I am. I invite you to do the same.
Find the place that inspires you. Find your retreat end point your face to the sun and smile. Taking time outside amongst the trees and the water can soothe you like nothing else. Find the time and rejuvenate your life.
Saturday, October 18, 2008
Catching up
Catching up
A few weeks ago I had a week of life changing the experiences with clients. All came to their coaching sessions needing to speak of life altering changes that happen to them or loved ones around them. We spoke of coping skills and strengths and how to view change with a positive mindset. We spoke how to discuss change with others in a sensitive and eloquent nature. We spoke about small steps, about open hearts and minds, and of vulnerability, of fear and of bravery. All of them left their sessions with plans in place and more centered view on change.
I know the conversation will now turn to… how do I catch up?
Life change takes time. Births and deaths, sickness and health, breakups and new relationships, fear and anger, learning how to be brave, learning how to make space for life all require time. This is time we don’t put on our to-do lists, time we don’t have that in our schedules. This is time that is demanded of you in the moment and a necessity of life. You are not given the choice of when or where it will happen. You’re not giving the choice of how or why it will happen… it just happens. Sometimes it happens so abruptly that you have no choice but to devote all of who you are to the change.
And so the question is…how do I catch up?
And the answer is simple. You do not catch up. The idea of catching up is the sticking point. Life is not and will never be perfectly planned and so you have to change the way you look at these life changing situations. You cannot look at them as interruptions in your schedule or interruptions in your to do list you have to look at them as a reality of life. The positive way to approach these changes is by dealing with them in the best manner possible, spending the time necessary to do so and then moving on. Do not do well on what you’ve missed or what you haven’t completed.
Schedules, life lists, goal lists and to do lists are not set in stone. You have to be adaptable and ready for anything to happen at any time. Catching up in theory sounds fabulous but in reality is unrealistic. It is much better after an emotional or traumatic event to come back to your life with a fresh new attitude, to not think about what you missed, what you forgotten to you or how far behind you are instead think of how you can start again. Make a new list; make changes in your calendar, cross some things out and to move some things around.
A successful and happy life includes adaptability. You have to be able to adapt to the given moment in that moment without looking back with regret at what you’ve missed or left behind. Instead look forward to what you can complete now. It’s all about concentrating on now.
The next time you feel frustrated by a life event that has disrupted your original plan don’t dwell on it just make a new plan! When you have some time, sit quietly and reevaluate what you can realistically accomplish and move forward.
A few weeks ago I had a week of life changing the experiences with clients. All came to their coaching sessions needing to speak of life altering changes that happen to them or loved ones around them. We spoke of coping skills and strengths and how to view change with a positive mindset. We spoke how to discuss change with others in a sensitive and eloquent nature. We spoke about small steps, about open hearts and minds, and of vulnerability, of fear and of bravery. All of them left their sessions with plans in place and more centered view on change.
I know the conversation will now turn to… how do I catch up?
Life change takes time. Births and deaths, sickness and health, breakups and new relationships, fear and anger, learning how to be brave, learning how to make space for life all require time. This is time we don’t put on our to-do lists, time we don’t have that in our schedules. This is time that is demanded of you in the moment and a necessity of life. You are not given the choice of when or where it will happen. You’re not giving the choice of how or why it will happen… it just happens. Sometimes it happens so abruptly that you have no choice but to devote all of who you are to the change.
And so the question is…how do I catch up?
And the answer is simple. You do not catch up. The idea of catching up is the sticking point. Life is not and will never be perfectly planned and so you have to change the way you look at these life changing situations. You cannot look at them as interruptions in your schedule or interruptions in your to do list you have to look at them as a reality of life. The positive way to approach these changes is by dealing with them in the best manner possible, spending the time necessary to do so and then moving on. Do not do well on what you’ve missed or what you haven’t completed.
Schedules, life lists, goal lists and to do lists are not set in stone. You have to be adaptable and ready for anything to happen at any time. Catching up in theory sounds fabulous but in reality is unrealistic. It is much better after an emotional or traumatic event to come back to your life with a fresh new attitude, to not think about what you missed, what you forgotten to you or how far behind you are instead think of how you can start again. Make a new list; make changes in your calendar, cross some things out and to move some things around.
A successful and happy life includes adaptability. You have to be able to adapt to the given moment in that moment without looking back with regret at what you’ve missed or left behind. Instead look forward to what you can complete now. It’s all about concentrating on now.
The next time you feel frustrated by a life event that has disrupted your original plan don’t dwell on it just make a new plan! When you have some time, sit quietly and reevaluate what you can realistically accomplish and move forward.
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Support and Life Coaching
I found out today that my last name in the international dictionary means support timber. It is of Germanic origin and was used in reference to mining tunnels. The definition describes the main support timber that kept the mine from caving in.
At first I was slightly disappointed by the meaning, as we all want our last names to have some poetic significance but as I thought about it I decided it was perfect. As I think about the meaning, a support timber, I see this wonderful hand-hewn beam made of some beautiful German oak tree, very rich and golden. It really is the perfect name because in reality that’s exactly what a life coach is… a support timber.
As a life coach I am here to support you. I’m not a main part of your daily life however my existence helps you to stand stronger. I am that quiet partner that offers strength when necessary.
I ran across the meaning of my last name completely unintentionally but now am so glad that I have. I love the idea that the origins of my last name are so appropriate.
What is the lesson here? As you all know…there is always a life lesson in my blogs. It’s kind of like watching the Brady bunch, I may a ramble on for a bit but you know at the end there is always going to be a moral of the story.
The lesson is…don’t assume you know everything there is to know about yourself, there is always something new to learn.
I had no idea that Stull had a significant meaning in my life. Now that I do, I admit, it puts a smile on my face.
You will continue to learn fabulous new things about yourself on an almost daily basis. Keep your mind open and look for the little, seemingly insignificant facts because when you explore them further they may turn out to be important pieces of who you are and who you’re going to become.
At first I was slightly disappointed by the meaning, as we all want our last names to have some poetic significance but as I thought about it I decided it was perfect. As I think about the meaning, a support timber, I see this wonderful hand-hewn beam made of some beautiful German oak tree, very rich and golden. It really is the perfect name because in reality that’s exactly what a life coach is… a support timber.
As a life coach I am here to support you. I’m not a main part of your daily life however my existence helps you to stand stronger. I am that quiet partner that offers strength when necessary.
I ran across the meaning of my last name completely unintentionally but now am so glad that I have. I love the idea that the origins of my last name are so appropriate.
What is the lesson here? As you all know…there is always a life lesson in my blogs. It’s kind of like watching the Brady bunch, I may a ramble on for a bit but you know at the end there is always going to be a moral of the story.
The lesson is…don’t assume you know everything there is to know about yourself, there is always something new to learn.
I had no idea that Stull had a significant meaning in my life. Now that I do, I admit, it puts a smile on my face.
You will continue to learn fabulous new things about yourself on an almost daily basis. Keep your mind open and look for the little, seemingly insignificant facts because when you explore them further they may turn out to be important pieces of who you are and who you’re going to become.
Monday, October 6, 2008
Bravery in "Life Sized Moments"
While driving today I heard a newscast about the death of Paul Newman they had a short clip from one of his movies “Nobody’s Fool”. His character was a grandfather speaking to his grandson about bravery. I haven’t seen the movie and am not sure of the context of the clip, however in the movie Paul Newman’s character was trying to teach his grandson about how to stand up to bullies and the advice was perfect.
Learn to be brave a little at a time. He taught his grandson to be brave for just 1 minute, 1 minute goes by quickly and a puts less pressure on you. The next time you need to be brave you do it for 2 minutes, and then slowly you become braver during many parts of your life. What a great way to overcome fear, be brave for short controlled times.
I teach life sized tasks to my clients and workshop attendees and this is very similar. Instead of tackling fears or difficult moments with all the bravery you can muster you tackle fears in small life size moments. You aren’t just brave, you learn to be brave. There’s a huge difference between the two. When you’re just brave you are only brave in that moment, it does not become a piece of who you are it’s just a moment in time. When you learn to be brave you are adding bravery to your toolbox of life.
That’s a very important distinction. When you’re working on growth you want to have authentic experiences and not forced moments. Forced moments are easily forgotten, authentic experiences you draw upon time and time again.
Learning to be brave in life sized moments can apply to any attribute you’re trying to make part of your daily life. Learn to be patient. Learn to be more truthful. Learn to be more out spoken. All of these can be done in the same manner, in life sized authentic moments, each which add to who you are and help you become the person you want to be.
Learn to be brave a little at a time. He taught his grandson to be brave for just 1 minute, 1 minute goes by quickly and a puts less pressure on you. The next time you need to be brave you do it for 2 minutes, and then slowly you become braver during many parts of your life. What a great way to overcome fear, be brave for short controlled times.
I teach life sized tasks to my clients and workshop attendees and this is very similar. Instead of tackling fears or difficult moments with all the bravery you can muster you tackle fears in small life size moments. You aren’t just brave, you learn to be brave. There’s a huge difference between the two. When you’re just brave you are only brave in that moment, it does not become a piece of who you are it’s just a moment in time. When you learn to be brave you are adding bravery to your toolbox of life.
That’s a very important distinction. When you’re working on growth you want to have authentic experiences and not forced moments. Forced moments are easily forgotten, authentic experiences you draw upon time and time again.
Learning to be brave in life sized moments can apply to any attribute you’re trying to make part of your daily life. Learn to be patient. Learn to be more truthful. Learn to be more out spoken. All of these can be done in the same manner, in life sized authentic moments, each which add to who you are and help you become the person you want to be.
Sunday, August 24, 2008
There is just something about this time year that inspires me. First, I must admit, I get the intense desire to go out and buy notebooks and pencils, book bags and lunch boxes. Remember those days, the excitement of going back to school? When I am not taking classes in the fall I feel the need to learn new things and study anyway.
Fall is about newness and energy for me. I want to learn! I want to create! I want to study! I want NEWNESS!
This fall I feel very fortunate, I have lots of new things going on in my life. I am waiting to find out about my certification status. My assessor told me on the sly that I passed, so technically I am just waiting for the official letter. That is very new and exciting for me! Soon I will be an official ICF certified coach. I decided to become a fulltime, formalized life coach just over a year ago and here I am, soon to be certified.
I am really energized by this and the fact that I can devote all of my time growing and nurturing my coaching practice.
Another new thing, I signed up for Coaches Console. What a great program, I can manage my practice smoothly and it gives my clients access to their schedules, to their notes, to group meetings and so much more. It is such a wonderful resource for them to get even more benefit from their coaching experience. I am really excited to offer it to them.
I am working on new logos, new websites, new blogs and new marketing material, so many new ways to promote my business.
I am learning new things about search engines and website design, about marketing on the internet and social media sites. I carry my books and notebooks around with me and I do sort of feel like I am back in school, but it’s a school of my own creation.
I have a new family member, THAT is VERY exciting!! The very first baby in my extended family in over 28 years. Obviously, we are all very pleased to welcome her into our lives. I am AUNTIE DEANNA! Woo Hoo!
The sun is starting to get that golden glow that I love so much during this time of year. The air is already crisp and leaves are starting to rustle just a bit. Take some time and add something new to your life, learn something, spend some time making plans for the rest of 2008. Even better, start thinking about what you will do during the first few winter months of 2009. Think back to when this time of year meant new classes, new friends, lot’s of excitement and figure out a way to bring that back into your life!
If you need a suggestion…Come to a workshop!
I am hosting another workshop this fall on Monday evenings at 6:45 in At Miracles Fitness Upper Township, NJ, starting on September 15. Fall into Life – Making Commitments to Yourself and Your Life-I have only three spaces left so call or email now if you are interested.
Click on the link to find out more. http://www.dancesunderstars.com/workshops.html
Fall is about newness and energy for me. I want to learn! I want to create! I want to study! I want NEWNESS!
This fall I feel very fortunate, I have lots of new things going on in my life. I am waiting to find out about my certification status. My assessor told me on the sly that I passed, so technically I am just waiting for the official letter. That is very new and exciting for me! Soon I will be an official ICF certified coach. I decided to become a fulltime, formalized life coach just over a year ago and here I am, soon to be certified.
I am really energized by this and the fact that I can devote all of my time growing and nurturing my coaching practice.
Another new thing, I signed up for Coaches Console. What a great program, I can manage my practice smoothly and it gives my clients access to their schedules, to their notes, to group meetings and so much more. It is such a wonderful resource for them to get even more benefit from their coaching experience. I am really excited to offer it to them.
I am working on new logos, new websites, new blogs and new marketing material, so many new ways to promote my business.
I am learning new things about search engines and website design, about marketing on the internet and social media sites. I carry my books and notebooks around with me and I do sort of feel like I am back in school, but it’s a school of my own creation.
I have a new family member, THAT is VERY exciting!! The very first baby in my extended family in over 28 years. Obviously, we are all very pleased to welcome her into our lives. I am AUNTIE DEANNA! Woo Hoo!
The sun is starting to get that golden glow that I love so much during this time of year. The air is already crisp and leaves are starting to rustle just a bit. Take some time and add something new to your life, learn something, spend some time making plans for the rest of 2008. Even better, start thinking about what you will do during the first few winter months of 2009. Think back to when this time of year meant new classes, new friends, lot’s of excitement and figure out a way to bring that back into your life!
If you need a suggestion…Come to a workshop!
I am hosting another workshop this fall on Monday evenings at 6:45 in At Miracles Fitness Upper Township, NJ, starting on September 15. Fall into Life – Making Commitments to Yourself and Your Life-I have only three spaces left so call or email now if you are interested.
Click on the link to find out more. http://www.dancesunderstars.com/workshops.html
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